Self Image

Skye Lewis

We spend so much time worrying about what other people say or think about us, we don't realise what we say about and to ourselves speaks volumes about our self-image.

This is often done without thought, or without taking on board the damage we do to ourselves. Iyanla Vanzant, author and inspirational speaker, talks about how we 'language' ourselves in and out of situations.

How often have you heard yourself or someone else (if that's too close to home), say, "I can't do that... I'm not good enough/ qualified/ experienced/ knowledgeable/ worthy..." Adults and children alike are equally to blame when it comes to negative talking, for some it starts as a result of a bad experience, for others it begins when young.

Your image of self, controls the way you live your life. It can propel you forward or it can hold you back. When your self-esteem is low your negativity is at the forefront. If you constantly tell yourself you are unable to do something, you never will, you may feel as if you have already tried and failed.

Turning harmful thoughts into good thoughts takes time, patience and encouragement. 'You can accomplish anything you set your mind to', and setting your mind is exactly what needs to be done.

Through consistent monitoring and adjustment of your 'language' you give yourself the reassurance needed. Parents can do this for their children - listen to them carefully, turn their negative statements into positive ones and watch as over time their confidence levels rise. Begin to make positive changes to your self-image, change your mindset - start today.

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