5 Top Tips to a Strong Family Relationship

1. Set a good example
- Don’t swear when you’re annoyed; if you do, expect your children to do the same.
- Don’t ask your family to tell a white lie and cover for you – if you do, don’t be surprised if they tell a little fib as well.

Tip
• Children copy everything, so behave appropriately in front of them.
• Allow your children to pick up good qualities and habits.


2. Build on communication
“ You never listen to me” is a complaint often used by children to parents.
- Listen well; don’t be too keen to express your views.
- Avoid distractions; children feel they have not been heard if you’re too busy to listen or focus during their conversations.

Tip
• When your children are ready to talk – look beyond their words and figure out what emotions are involved.
• Encourage them to communicate their feelings, expectations, challenges, sorrows and joys.


3. Using the right discipline
- Aim for balanced discipline, where you still install firm rules and boundaries, whilst respecting your children’s views.

Tip
• Deal with bad behaviour straightaway.
• Avoid negative comments.
• Avoid using threats to gain control.


4. Attention Seekers
- All children need positive attention, cuddles, praise and words of love spoken to them.
- Paying more attention when they are bad will encourage them to always seek negative attention.

Tip
• Notice when they are behaving well and praise good behaviour.


5. Encourage independence
- Allow your children to experience the natural consequences of their behaviour or mistakes.
- Independence gives children a great sense of accomplishment and motivation to go on learning.

Tip
• Respect your children’s increasing need for privacy and independence.
• Allows children to gain a sense of responsibility and respect.